Questions and Routes to a Person

Yes, and the honest answer is that it works best for the few people your family already treats as family: the uncle who is not an uncle, your mother’s oldest friend, the neighbour who was at every birthday. Wozekhaya is built for a family rather than for a social circle, so a friend here is a person attached to your family rather than a name on a list.

Three things are worth knowing before you add anybody.

Nobody arrives on their own. A person is in your family’s space because somebody already in it put them there. There is no way in by searching for your family and asking.

They see what you choose, not everything. Sharing is decided for each thing you add, before it is shared, and a friend is simply one more person you can include or leave out. Changing your mind afterwards takes effect everywhere.

A child cannot add anybody from outside the family. A parent approves it or it does not happen. That holds whether the person is a friend or a relative.

There is no friend count anywhere in Wozekhaya, and there never will be. A number beside a person turns a relationship into a score, and the moment a count is visible people start adding others to raise it. What makes a connection worth having here is that it is true, not that there are many of them.